What Makes You Wet And A Mess?

TNY SEX EXPERT: RIC DENTON

I want to talk to you boys and girls about what I feel is a lost art: Sensuality.  It may seem obvious that it’s not really lost, per se, but I do think that many, many people don’t like putting the extra effort into exploring all the ways you can make someone else’s body feel good before you get to the fucking and (hopefully) make them feel fanfuckingtastic.  You can call this foreplay if you want, because it is, but it may not necessarily fit the standard ideas of foreplay which I think most people envision as a blowjob for guys, and some tongue-on-clit action for gals, or a finger inserted here or there to warm up the hole for the grand act. You can (and SHOULD!) include those in your love making, but before you even get there, here are some of my favorite things to do to a body. I don’t consider these things extra work or boring at all, cause when you’re hot for someone, you’re going love giving your playmate pleasure with any of these.  Some basic questions to consider are… 

Do you like being slowly and methodically massaged all over? Yes, you do. That means others do, too. And don’t feel bad about lingering on super-hot spots. You’re making sexy time. Everything  is fair game (unless someone is bruised somewhere and it just plain hurts to touch).

Do you like to be kissed or even licked in random spots that you never really think of as being kissable or lickable? I KNOW, right! Others will, too.  Now, I’m REALLY fucking ticklish, and I know how awkward it can be when someone’s trying to be all sexy and they touch the wrong spot and you knee their face in auto-protest. But it CAN be overcome. Know how? You take their head in your hand and you guide it like a big, seeing, smelling, tongue-wielding masturbation device. With your hands connected to your partner, you’ll feel more in control and less apt to be wigged out when those teeth brush your inner thigh or those whiskers graze over your belly button.

Do you like sex with food? Like, with syrups and jellies and fruits? ‘Cause if you do, then you’ve got get your fingers (clean, please) sticky with the good stuff and put them in your partner’s mouth, and on their body, on their naughty bits—or on yours—and have fun cleaning each other up.  I realize you might not be able to get into this sort of thing with everyone, ‘cause some people may just not like it, but just try it. If you enjoy the way your partner looks and feels already, why not amp it up by making them the embodiment of some of your favorite flavors? Talk about devouring someone…whoa baby.

Do you like to make out? Again, this may seem obvious, but I’ve met men (yes, I’m gay) who just cannot get into kissing worth a goddamn. I don’t understand it. The human mouth was designed for pleasure as well as a vehicle for sustenance and, by god, it just needs to be crammed up against another one for long, wet, sloppy sessions as often as possible. To be honest, kissing is something that’ll make my dick hard faster than someone sucking on it, but again, that’ll depend of if I’ve got a good kisser to work with. My advice: KISS A LOT. If you don’t think you’re a good kisser, practice. A LOT. ‘Cause I mean, the things you can do with your fingers while your face is smashed against someone else’s…do I really have to explain all that?  No.  I know you get me there.

Do you know how to talk sexy to boot-kockin’ buddy? What I mean is, while you’re making out, and you’ve got a finger or two massaging that delicate flower, or you’re tugging on that growing tube-steak, work your way around to your ear of choice and, in that purring voice unique to you, tell them what you’re gonna do to them. Tell them how you’re gonna own it. Make them tell you what they want, and then do it.

As I said, these are just a FEW of my favorite things. Also, I realize that not every play session will require detailed sensuality.  Sometimes, you just want to get right to the fucking and sucking, or the jerking, or the fingering, or whatever works, and get off because you’ve got things to do.  But, when you just really don’t have anything else to do, I think you owe it to yourself to see just how skilled you are.  You will get some amazing returns on your investment.  Trust me.

Ric

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If The Shoe Fits….

Your guide to Summer Running Shoes.

TNY RUNNING EXPERT: KIMBERLY SMITH

*Disclaimer* I’m not an expert. Good thing is, I don’t have to be an expert. In the running world, EVERYONE else is an expert; and most believe that, whatever is on their feet, should also be on yours. Everyone has an opinion.

  From barefoot or minimalist, to arch support, to Brooks, Mizunos, Vibrams, or Newtons, the shoe selection at a typical running shop can be overwhelming. When you start throwing out terms like “heel drop”, and it’s enough to make your head spin. First things first, you need to find someone who truly IS an expert and have them watch you run. It can be a bit nerve wrecking to feel like your form, and foot strike is being judged, but the truth is, this person is trained to   watch what your body is doing and help you find a shoe.

   For example….my feet, awful; my arches are beyond fallen. My foot rolls into the inside and turns out like a ballerina. Without the proper shoe, I suffer (and I mean SUFFER) with Plantar Fasciitis to the point where walking hurts. I tried many shoes before finding the right one. For me, it’s the Brooks Adrenaline line (http://www.brooksrunning.com/Adrenaline-GTS-13/120123,default,pd.html), in a size and a half bigger than I normally wear. If you do not have screwy feet, you might want to look into the minimalist options. This is where heel drop comes into play.

    In “barefoot running” heel drop is zero. Simply put, your toe and heel are on the same plane. Of course they are…you’re barefoot. If running sans shoes isn’t your style, but you still want the feel of the barefoot runner, then you should look for a shoe with the least amount of heel drop. The popular, if funny looking, Vibrams 5 Fingers are a true Zero Drop shoe. They will give you the closest feeling to running barefoot, short of taking off your shoes and going for a run. If that doesn’t work for you, there are many options in the 0-10mm drop range. The smaller that heel drop number, the closer your heel is to being on the same plane as your toes. When this happens, it forces you to stop jarring your heels into the ground and adopt a more friendly mid-foot strike. Think knees up. Instead of making your stride long, your knees should come up, keeping your feet under you. Most people start out running as a heel striker. When your heel hits the ground/trail/pavement/track first, all that energy travels right up your leg, essentially putting the brakes on your stride. Imagine with every step, you are actually stopping your momentum. Add to that, the potential for injuries such as ITBS (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iliotibial_band_syndrome), Plantar Fasciitis (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plantar_fasciitis), shin splints (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shin_splints), back and knee pain…..wait? Why do I run again?

   You want a supportive shoe that promotes good form? Check into Newtons  (http://www.newtonrunning.com/).  These colorful shoes with the funny little pegs on the bottom are designed to encourage your foot to land more “toe first”. However, at nearly $200 a pair, and coming with a learning curve (these cannot be your primary running shoe when you first switch to them), they can be a big leap for a new runner. Full disclosure, I tried a pair of Newtons last year, and although I wanted to love them, after my first 5 mile race, my legs hurt worse than they had after my first half marathon. I simply couldn’t afford a second pair of running shoes to wean into the Newtons, so after 2mths of trying, I took them back to the running shop and exchanged them for my beloved Brooks. If you aren’t in the middle of marathon training, and have the time to wean yourself into them, they can be great shoes.

    But that’s the thing about being a shoe expert. The only person you need to be an expert for, is

yourself. Do you research, find a trusted local running store with educated employees who aren’t just trying to sell you the latest and greatest gadget, and find the shoe that works for you. People were running long before the days of “heel drop”, “Chi Running”, and fancy watches, and they will be running long after many of these fads run their course (pardon the pun). The most important thing is to find what is comfortable and what works for you…not the brightest, fanciest, most expensive thing you can find.


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